• Naomi Kiyoko Wilson

How to Move Past Startling Events

Updated: Mar 27

We’ve all had those moments in our lives where something occurs very quickly yet seemingly in slow motion. It happens so fast that you can’t process it completely, yet slow enough to allow you to feel extremely intense emotions.

Today I tripped on the side of a street and nearly got ran over by a car. It was pretty frightening, and I’m still processing it hours later. I reminded myself of three things post-event, which you might find helpful as well.

One, give yourself time to recover from the event. Ground yourself physically and mentally in the present. This can be done through meditation, simply focusing on your breath, or any other method that allows you to switch from your sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight) to your parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest).

Two, be grateful that you have survived the event. Once you have gained your bearings, remind yourself that not everyone survives the situation that you were in. Gratitude is an essential step in moving forward, which leads us to my final point.

Three, remind yourself that you have the strength to move past this event. Whether this is in a matter of days or decades, you will overcome it if you work hard and believe in yourself. After all, we cannot control what happens to us, but we can control how we react to the hardships we face.

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